Stage Four: Negotiations
Insider Secret: Your family and friends can cause you to lose your dream home.
Why: With so much information on the web and the news every day about the recession and the buyer’s market, everyone seems to be an armchair economist/real estate savant.  But much of that news is national and based on medians, averages and trends.  That is, it might not necessarily apply to every home on the market in every city, and more importantly, it might have nothing to do with “your” particular home.

When I was a little girl, my best friend’s grandfather would very carefully hand each of us a quarter, always doling it out with the sage admonition: “Don’t spend it all in one place.” We’d always smile, look at each other, then go ask our Moms for ten bucks apiece.  In the same vein, people who are not currently in the market for a home have no idea what an individual home should “go for.” If you tell your parents, church pals, or colleagues at work the blow-by-blow details of your offer, counteroffers, etc., you should expect to hear things like, “Oh, you’re paying way too much!”, “I think you should push them down another $10K,” or “You know, you’re in a better bargaining position than that.” And sometimes, taking that sort of advice will end up blowing your deal.  Work with your trusty real estate broker or agent to develop a smart strategy – with their experience in your local market – about what price and terms to offer.  Then keep working with them to manage and maintain realistic expectations as you proceed through negotiating the contract to buy your home.

Look for Stage 5 in Monday’s Blog